WHAT I SHOULD KNOW ...
This is neither supposed to be an order to fill in custom forms nor to write entire session scenarios or scripts.
The purpose of this section is basically to put something fundamental straigt:
On the one hand there are really a lot of things I can do, but to put it simply, there are also things I am just not able to do - above all I am not capable of reading the mind of a complete stranger instantly perfect!
Therefore, we just have to get to know each other - by having a little talk so that I can get an idea, even if it is only a rough one, of what kind of person you are.
When I ask somebody about his preferences or fantasies and I get answers like "well, what is done typically" or "the usual", - I have to restrain myself not to freak out ... for me, there is no such thing as "the usual" or a "standard session". In my opinion, BD/DS/SM exists in so many different forms and varieties with as many little differences to them as there are human beings on this planet … and in additon people also change and are not the same every day!
This is why there are limits when it comes to just looking at a person and instantly being able to tell exactly what he needs and desires!
Now, some people might consider this as something a good dominatrix has to be capable of, but those exact same people probably have no idea of or do not even consider the amount of different possibilities and options there are …
Sure, getting closer in the course of a session and finding out bit by bit about the other person is a lot of fun, too. However, in most cases there are just some basic points which should be clarified in advance and prior to anything!
Before getting to know each other, you should make up your mind to have a rough idea of your fantasies or the direction in which you want to go… or even more important - to become in some degree aware of your taboos, because to know the things you absolutely do not want to experience often may be enough information for me.
I know that is often not easy to talk about your most secret fantasies or dreams with what seems to be a complete stranger - above all if this should be the first person to ever know about them! For me personally, this is no problem because I have a lot of understanding and patience for everyone who is interested in anything concerning this lifestyle - especially when it comes to first-timers… if it's easier for you and you feel more comfortable you may just write down in advance everything you want to know or try out, you also have the possibility by telling me via e-mail.
For all those of you who were expecting a list including boxes to check may be disappointed but I disapprove of making generalizations and having strict and complete routines!
In case you wanted to send me such a kind of form, you can still do so - as far as I know there are some websites who offer these kinds of checklists.
However, I still prefer the individual and personal communication!
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